I've told her she is free to go. She can leave at any time. (But I am not going to help her move etc)
The conversations go like this...
Her: (reusing your paraphrasing from above) "I don't love you. I don't want to try to love you. I don't want to try to love you even if you say love is a decision. I doon't feel love for you. I don't want to try and feel love for you. I don't want to try to get it back".......
Me: OK...then leave.
Her: You're trying to throw me out! I can't leave. We have children, we have...
Me: OK...then stay.
Her: This is horrible. I can't be happy. I've never been happy. How can you want to live like this? Are you happy in this marriage?
Me: No. I'm unhappy. I think this marriage we have right now is horrible.
Her: You keep thinking that it can be fixed. It can never be fixed. There is no foundation for a R...
Me: OK
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Retro is a great program, but in my sitch, it messed me up a bit. It is designed to bring people together, and for me it did just that - ripped me out of detachment. She avoided the exercises, didn't follow the instructions, stayed detached and aloof, and the net result is that every exercise was a painful effort in self control and anger management.
So I'm angry - just plain fed up. And I've been avoiding her for 4 days (since Retro ended). I don't want to talk to her about anything. and now she is going with me to a C session that she demanded that I schedule, because she wants to talk about my anger.
So what does "Let Her Go" mean?
Last edited by Thinker; 10/15/0908:27 PM.
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.
