Yep. Maybe you will fail. Guess what? It's the rare person whose entire remaining life is determined by one day of failure. You are holding on so tight and trying so hard to control your situation, no wonder you're driving yourself *and* your wife crazy.
At the moment, you *do* risk driving her away, at least for now, just so she can get a little peace. All because you have to feel like you're doing *something*. When you leave her alone, you ARE doing something. You are *respecting her requests* as if you actually understand that she is her own person with her own needs, not just an extension of you. Think about it.
That makes perfect sense! I like the idea that I am doing something by leaving her alone.
I am a IT consultant and my job consists of me coming up with solutions to difficult problems for large government agencies. I have been trained to find ways to fix things. I feel like I have met my match with my marriage and don't even have the opportunity to fix it.
