You got some splainin to do? "Ricki Ricardo" impersonation
M:47 M:18 D16, S19 1st S 1/08-5/08 Reconciled/May 7, 2008 Left again Nov 9, 2009 I Filed: Nov 17, 2009 Final: April 14, 2010 EX walked away from kids too
It wasnt a "pass/fail" test. I wanted to make a point and I think I did. She had asked him to give her tickets for the game. I found out by an email she had sent him. Two lines, very strict and "Will you give me the tickets? And please check the other email account. THANK YOU"
He didnt give her tickets. She had called him 4 days ago and he said he couldnt and she came back the day before the game with this email. He says, he told her no.
He was never hesitant when I said I wanted to go. Moved his co worker so he could sit beside me. Hardly left 5 minutes by my side, kissed me in front of evrybody and introduced me as his wife.
He told me today, he didnt know if she came to the game, he never saw her there and she never contacted him. I bet he was worried the whole time.
The fact is, we have said we are together. And I cant be demanding things or expecting things, but I sure want things from him. He never said she emailed him. I found the email, before he did. He actually checked his mail, an hour before the game. When I told him I knew, I told him that is exactly what is not working for me. When I said total honesty, it would mean that too. He tried to say, he had not seen it etc etc and then told me about the phonecall that I didnt know about.
He said "I guess, I have to talk to her not only because you want me too, but because she doesnt get it". I knwo she doesnt. She is pissed and upset and if she was there and saw me, I bet she is mad as hell now. And I dont think she will quit easily. I think he realises that as well now.
When he talks to me about her, he sounds like he has "seen the light" about it. I know, how that sounds, but he does. I told him she cant be thinking it is ok to contact him for tickets or support for her work or whatever. He said he doesnt want to be the one to supporting her, at all, he knows he wants and loves me.
We had a big discussion about his work. He is ready to make a move. Funny how he has ideas of doing something on his own. Good ideas. He surprised me. I am not he only one that changed here, that's for sure. He sounds so much more "ambitious" and creative (previous lever was ZERO). For a moment I panicked aabout being married to a "professional". But then, the truth is, I admire that in a man and although I always was proud of him, I used to feel he wasnt exploring his full potential. He seems he is doing it now.
All his plans, include more time with us. Like not having to work at all in the evenings, or choosing something he would be able to decide when to work.
Still the timing sucks. Because he will probably be very busy. Not time wise, but mind wise. We'll see. Things are not clear yet. K
mish, I am not excited at all. We have been thru this before. I am a bit worried that she may go crazy when he talks to her. I hope he can handle it. But if he cant then... K
I am glad he talked to you about the contact he had from her. Would have been much better if he had done it on his own instead of after you found the e-mail, but at least he talked about it. And it's definitely a good step that he took you to the game and sat with you.
I hope he really is growing. But I will reserve judgment, as I'm sure you are too.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
It sounds positive, I am praying for the best for you! I hope he truly delivers this time and you don't have to go through the kind of hell you did a few weeks ago.
You are a smart and brave woman. I know you are making him show, not tell. He will do that to be with you or he won't. And I will cheer you on the whole way. Sometimes the incredible pain has a way of burning away the stuff that just doesn't matter that much and boiling things down to the nitty gritty.
She needs to go away. Plain and simple. You've made it clear and now he has to make it happen.
I believe this time he knows what a jewel he has. We knew it all along.
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
