Holy cannoli Tal, Boy did you ever speak for my H & I too when you said:
Quote: We both know that avoiding R talks doesn't work for us. It makes me withdraw, then him withdraw, then me withdraw more--until there is a gulf between us that neither one of us can find a way to bridge.
It is still excrutiating for me to try to initiate these conversations. It is very hard for me to share my feelings with him in the first place. That has been compounded by years of being stonewalled and shut down when I would try.
That is EXACTLY us. Great way to express this dilemma! T2
