Yes, you know what ONE L told you. And it is not your job to inform your W of the legal side of things. Let her find out on her own or use her own attny to get info. Look where my H's attny got him and trust me, my H informed me of all kind of stuff his attny said.
Honestly, if your W did remarry and your kids had a stepdad and you promoted disrespectful actions towards their new stepdad then you are simply vindictive.
My stepdad is amazing. Granted, my parents were divorced for 15 yrs and they only got married 3 yrs ago but still. When my dad was dying there was not ONE visiting session my stepdad missed. And when we took my dad off life support and we ALL stood around his bed (me and my H, my sister and her H, my mom and her H and my aunt/uncle) it was my stepdad who had his hand on my shoulder and my sisters shoulder. That is a real man.
It was also my stepdad he told my father on his deathbed what great kids my sister and I are, that he knows he never can take his place but he will always look out for us and be there for us. You know what my father's last words were less than an hour before he died? Thank you. To my stepdad.
So basically you would rather have your kids miserable and full of stress in a house with a stepdad because you say its okay not to respect him? Right, that would just make your W miserable and sometimes I wonder if that is your goal.
The way you class people is damaging. Just like you did with the "Kid" of a counselor before you even knew a darn thing. Or how all the people at AA were losers and you werent like them before you gave it more time. Stop worrying about your W and start addressing your patterns that are destructive.
