W wants to separate

[LTD]

You can only control what you do. I agree with Coach. If you don't want to separate, why should you take the action? If she is deadset on separating, she needs to make it happen.

I understand it's easier said than done. I waffle on it in my own situation. You ask yourself, should I give her what she wants to avoid being selfish? If I appear to be giving, will she change her mind? Should I do what's easiest on the kids? If I stand up for myself, will it prove what she accused me of in the first place? Etc. I get it. I know that if I would have had a choice in the matter, I would have stayed. I would recommend that you stay. The problem is a situation caused by both of you. No matter what she thinks, getting rid of you isn't going to solve all her problems.