Actually she has been quite open and honest about how she feels, what she feels, and why she feels it...
You just aren't listening and don't seem to want to believe what she is telling you. It seems very clear to me what she is saying, has been saying and will continue to say...
You ARE NOT listening.. She is communicating LOUD AND CLEAR..
Let me paraphrase what I believe she is saying to you....
"I don't love you. I don't want to try to love you. I don't want to try to love you even if you say love is a decision. I doon't feel love for you. I don't want to try and feel love for you. I don't want to try to get it back".......
You are NOT listening. She couldn't be more clear.
Your solution is to LET HER GO... LET HER GO..
NOTHING else is going to work. NOTHING....
She is feeling nothing but PRESSURE from you. I'm not even living with you and I CAN FEEL it from you. PRESSURE DOES NOT WORK. GET THE PRESSURE OFF...
The way you do that is LET HER GO...
You are making this FAR more complicated than it is...
Give her what she wants. You are destroying yourself with this hanging in there method that is NOT WORKING...
You are going backwards. You should be going FORWARD....
Quit analyzing her and let her go. She is making it clear. You just don't want to hear or believe what she says. That means you are NOT listening to her.
