Do you think that was a wise threat? Because *all* your W needs to do is let her attny know that you are threatening her and I promise you things will explode in your face faster than a speeding bullet.
I dont care what state you are in or what the laws are... when a woman is threatened by an estranged spouse and that threat involves children NO judge will take kindly to that.
Basically you used your kids and her not having 50% access to them as a tool you would hope make her say "gee, I better ditch OM for the sake of my kids". Do you think that worked? Nope. In fact, if you think she isnt keep a log of some sort of each blowup you have where you threaten her about the children or call her names you are crazy.
You and your W are separated and if she is dating or taking trips w/somebody that is not your business. You have no indication or proof that this person is even interested in becoming any sort of father figure to your children.
But, since it seems that ya'll are heading for a D there is a chance one day your children will have a stepfather. And three grown adults working together to parent children is much better than three adults at odds w/one another causing continued strife for your children who are already very fragile.
Your attny is going to tell you what you want to hear. If you dont believe that call my H. His attny made it sound like this would all be 50/50 split and his adultry would not be an issue or the fact the state I live in classes me as "unhealthy" due to a chronic and incurable disease I happen to have. Guess who walked away with 80% of ALL our assets, 3 years of spousal support/health/dental/vision payments (I could have gotten 7), ALL the furniture, our apartment, the money to purchase a new car in cash and guess who has to pay my legal bills? So much for what my H's attny said, huh? That it would be no problem. LOL! The lovely part of it all is I didnt have to say a word. He dug his own hole. And you are digging yours. Do not use your children as a threat. And if your attny suggests that is okay then find a new attny because he is clearly a snake.
Dont make veiled threats. They will come back to bite you big time. Again, if you want some sort of structure then file for D. The courts, I assure you, will ORDER that structure and there wont be a darn thing you can do about it.
Your W is searching for *something* seeing how this is her 2nd OM (that we know of) in less than a year. How long are you going to be her fallback option for?
