Morning Tal, I so understand where you're coming from with this. I find that I NEED to take the temperature of our R on a regular basis. I DO know that this is a time of transition for both H and I. We're both trying to get our marital legs back under us to see if they're going to be strong enough to hold us up after all we've been through.
I know for me that I can only let so much time pass or 'negative self-speak' go on in my head before I implode, so for me..an occassion testing of the waters and clearing the air is imperative OR I start keeping score and getting withdrawn myself.
H is very obviously happy/content to be here. He is also obviously trying to be "PRESENT" in this M. But like you, I need to HEAR it. I SEE the action BUT I also need the words.
I keep reminding myself that a year from now, if we keep things going along at this pace, we will once again have a good/better M and a trusting/loving R. But it's gonna take a lot more time and a lot more patience and alot more work,on both our parts. T2
