Ahh, the age old question. How long do you wait...Let's clarify first. You were bombed in July of THIS year??? If that is correct. You have not been in the game very long at all. That does not decrease the suckage of the situation but you are just getting started. It is my observation that it takes 6 months for a lot of spouses to start to believe the changes. In my house it took 8 months. BTW, the six months is from when you really have your DB'ing working, not from when the pleading, begging etc...started. Are you GAL? Are you positive? Can you honestly say you are the best you that you've ever been?
Short answer, you wait until you've had enough. Only you know when.
Long answer, sounds like you are on the path but you could easily have 6 months from today, if you do everything right, to start seeing improvement. Each situation is unique but this is my observation of improving situations that are not complicated by affairs.
...my 2 cents
Me 44 She 46 S13 D9 M18 T23 3 years DB'ing Successfully busted
