Would you still recommend I stay put even with the daughter and her taking care of her. I do agree that she is the one that wants to go though. I just don't want to cause an even bigger rift.
She will respect you if you take a stand. She won't tell you and she will pitch a fit but it's true. "Wife, I understand you want some space from me. I don't believe a seperation is in our marriage's, our family's or my best interest. I have decided that I am not going to move out. If you think that you still need space I won't stand in your way of you moving out." Don't discuss it any further, she wants it then she can figure it out. It's not being selfish, she's projecting on to you and trying to make you defensive. Be the leader of your family.
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M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
