I'm gonna throw down in agreement with Coach and Dia on this one.
She wants to come to YOUR counseling session? Fine. Then it's about YOUR agenda. I wonder if you have EVER gotten to run through that whole list of hurts without being constantly interrupted and shut down. If you have a counselor who will have your back on this .... I think it's time. Yes, the list is about your emotions, but her involvement emerges quite clearly.
Ditto, ditto, and ditto.
Thinker, I have struggled of late with the moving out of the first pahse of DB'ing - which is really just the LRT. Once the WAS has slowed down, then it is time to work on rebuilding the R. Slowly, but it has to happen.
IMHO, this area of your emotions is a BIG deal for YOU (and would be for me as well). She has input, to an extent and to the extent you want to consider her input. But she cannot deny you those emotions or force you to feel otherwise. This is an area where you have to put your foot down and, by God, if she doesn't like, who cares?
This isn't about HER. It's about YOU. She's either going to get with the program or not. In either case, you have to look out for YOU.
