Just be careful. Yes, it's time to get things out on the table but you sound like you're still angry. If she walks into a counseling session and is hit with a big list, she might feel like she's walking into an ambush. Listen, care, feel.
"My actions are my only true belongings. I cannot escape the consequences of my actions. My actions are the ground upon which I stand." Thich Nhat Hanh
