I've been working on your insight about why Dick has gone after my kids and I while leaving his previous family pretty much alone.....
What you said was true, but I had to go back and remember why Dick's previous x (px) didn't have to put up the fight.... oh, she did in the beginning, for her support and medical bills, but then I took over the bill paying, made sure her support was the first thing taken off the top, added an extra (at least $150) and paid the bills when they came in..... Me, I've had to fight for just child support.... Dick didn't have the constant reminder of the payment, it was out and gone along with the rest of the bills.... it was before the state payment centers, so it wasn't taken from his check, so the thorn wasn't in his side, but also, he always had his per diem check that he kept all for himself every month, and was hiding from me.....
Dick didn't have to fight for the once or twice a year he wanted to see the kids, for just after 2 years, he grew tired of grabbing them for Christmas, it was before D was even born. Also, Dick and PW were only married for 4 years.... His the marriage before that, less than a year.... in fact, all his other relationships lasted less than a year prior to his marriage to PW. During that 4 year marriage, he spent more than half of that away from her and her kids, by spending it in Kansas using needing work or better pay as the excuse.... until she said "No more working out of state", and then their marriage was over a year and a half later.
Now, Dick and Jane are coming up on 3 years this month, just after his accident and the death of his Sister in 2006.... however, they spent the first year and a half in two separate states.... She moved to California after Spring Break, 2008. They have kept their financials separate, nothing he owns is in her name, he has no idea of what she makes, she has no idea of what he makes, but he collects half the mortgage from her.... Hey, if it works for them, why question it. Hmmm, maybe part of the reason Dick is becoming unraveled.... Jane isn't as bright as Dick's usual choices, and maybe her saving grace, also, she has someone on the side that fulfills at least her emotional needs, so they just may stick this one out, then again, it may also be part of the reason Dick is unraveling.... Only God knows for sure. Of course, Dick has S and I to vent his anger when he needs to de-pressure.
Once again I digress.... Just some weird random thoughts....
Anyway, in reality, I haven't been the aggressor in court, he has been. Of course, he being the aggressor, has financially prevented me from being the aggressor when the time was needed. But, I have stood my ground, therefore, fighting back... but he's gotten away with everything! It still wonder if it's more a cat and mouse or really one way of him dealing with the pressure of life, and needing someone to blow it up/out on.
Mind you, I'm not trying to disprove your insight, what I am trying to understand is, how could I have done things differently, or better yet, do things differently, so he will drop me and the kids like a hot potato... I've already asked for no child support, and that he turned into proof that I was crazy..... I didn't respond to his last nasty email, just sent it directly to my Attorney, and allowed them to take care of it... I didn't reach out and rip his head off about the letter he sent to S, just brought it to my Attorney, and said here's some more information... I'm lying low, no words to D, I'm waiting on her.... cause I know the day she wants to come back, there will be a major disruption in CA..... Lol XD.. ha ha ha, but by then, I hope to have been sitting in waiting, gathering all the right tools and information to protect the kids and I until D turns 18.
Snodderly, I know your right, it's just a matter of understanding what actions I need to take to from here on in.
Well, I've taken up enough space for today.... better get a move on from here.
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you.........
