Thanks all. I am going to review the first draft today. Much will need to be spelled out here...including phone calls, timing, etc. Also, I am concerned about future life events (eg, sweet sixteen, BM's, etc.). My atty has been doing this for over 35 years so she should know pretty much.

My atty has said in the past on her first vacay out of the country, "FIB, you are getting divorced. There will be other men." I agree with the above that we probably still try to control their lives, or, try to put some semblance of 'integrity thinking' on them, when, we really can't.

Took notes. Will post back. FIB

Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11)
Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t
Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10
Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;