Over the Shock and GALing 6

[ClingingToHope]

First, I would let her come to the counseling session.

Second, I don't know about everyone's advice here. I thought you can only change yourself, you can't change others. If you just want the counseling session to be about her, she's going to feel like you set a trap for her.

I've gone back and forth on my wife. If I love her unconditionally, for all of her faults, then that means doing things with no expectation of getting something in return.

It's up to her to show appreciation. If she is incapable of that then it's up to you to decide if that's the life you want to live.

That's a hard one to figure out because I'm like you, I think I can fix anything with enough effort. That isn't true with marriages.