Dont worry too much about this latest. In a week, it will mostly be forgotten.
Listen to what CityGirl says.
Dont arugue. Ever. When a man has an argument with a woman and loses - he loses. When he wins the argument - he still loses.
Learn to turn the other cheek.
For you to ever have your W come back and successfully piece your marriage back, you have much growth still. I can sense you are starting to feel like it is an impossible task, but it is not.
BTW... I have a gas stove. No warm up time for that. I never touch it.