Magnificent

[dday101798]

Karen,

I couldn't agree you with you more. But, the kids are the ones the want her to tag along and do something. I have spoken with them. Almost everytime we have a dinner "in the neighborhood" they get upset because "mom wouldn't come". And everytime I tell them, well, mom was invited and she chose not to. It was from them that I first heard "she can't because OM will get mad and fight with her". That has to be about the upmost worst excuse I've ever heard, but, if that's how it is, that's how it is.

Then there's the relayed messages of "mom says tell great gram and aunt 'she misses them and loves them" and all that jazz. Of which I tell her, if you have anything to say to anyone in my family, say it yourself. You left, not me.

Whenever I do ask for a reason from her why she can not attend or do anything for her self, I always get this sad pathetic look out of her. And at that, yes, it does bother me. It bothers me for simple fact that as I've said time and time again, we, her and I are very well done with each other, that was her choice and I'm trying to pick up steam and follow suit with that feeling as well. Point blank simple, she has NOTHING to worry about. So long as I know at the end of dinner or what not, she's going back to him, he can then have her. But we are parents together, ALWAYS will be. If OM has a problem with that, he should of thought harder about it with the head attached to his neck when he opted to get involved with a married woman with kids instead of the head in lower extremities.

And let's look at the D families that DON'T do stuff together, they're majority that has kids growing up as delinquents, smoking, drinking, in trouble with the law and falures in school. And I will vouch that first hand, I WAS one of those kids who was forced to learn how to live life on my own with the company of many more like me and where I came from.