Thank you for your responses and words of encouragement.
I have a gut feeling that my wife still loves me very much, but is terrified to let down her defenses. She simply doesn’t trust me anymore. I pray that Retrouvaille heals her pain and removes mistrust so as to allow us to rebuild our relationship. I still love her very much.
BillM: Do you have any Retrouvaille advice you feel comfortable sharing with me? Thanks.
Cautiously optimistic…LFH
LFH,
I understand b/c I am at that point with my W. I think she loves me and doesn't want a D, at least not now. I suspect she has quite a conflict in her head - "Who is this man?". I also suspect she is struggling to trust me again, but is not quite there. While Retro can be a big step in that process of trusting you again, I don't think there is any substitute for time. So, be consistent and keep plodding on. Marathon, not a sprint.
