Look Sumguy, your current approach is not working.
You need to write down what you two fight about. Be honest and make the list IN WRITING. Then for each topic you fight about, write down what happens. Then really really study it.
The next time she wants to fight about coverage for the kids, such as, she doesn't want to come get them for some lame excuse....like snow, you simply say this "You know what? That's a great point. I didn't think of that. I will handle this on my side. You be careful, talk to you later." And end it.
From now on, at the FIRST sign of resistance, you back off and say "You're right."
Let's try this and see what happens. If it doesn't work, we'll figure out a new plan. But you are trying to argue her to your side, your way of thinking. I'm not saying you're wrong, you're not. But it's not working. It's only making things worse.
