I am sorry for your sitch. We are all sort of in the same place. Small details separate us and time is always our enemy it seems.
Your situation is so tough. I can only imagine the unbearable pain you must be going through. It is so hard to have to compete with your wife's heart when another man is involved.
I do not know why, but isn't it strange how we get so much more angry at the man than at our own wives for the affair? Alteast I do. ITs like they broke the ultimate guy code.
They say that you should let the W go. They say that if you set her free, and she comes back she is yours to begin with. I do not understand. If the shoe was on the other foot, they would be in the same boat as us. Not wanting to let go.
whatever transgression happened in the past are in the past, but in the eyes of the WAW they are insurmountable and broken beyond repair. I hate that. I hate that defeatist the grass is greener on the other side, bullcrap. /rant over.
Cutterbug The only advice i can offer is do you love your wife enough to forigve and forget? The only way i see her breaking that affair is for her to come to her senses. And for her to come to her senses you have to be the man that she fell in love with in the first place.
