WOW, thanks for posting your laundry thing...It never occured to me that my H might just be thinking, "Hey, it's my stuff, I got it dirty so I should be the one to wash it." Damn Bill, you've ruined a perfectly good resentment for me with simple truth AND way back during my H's and my first (failed) recon attempt, I made a big deal out of being the housemaid and how I had NO INTENTIONS of taking that role on again...duh, maybe HE actually HEARD ME