the "3 mo. trial separation which was meant to save our M." just out of curosity how much pressure did you put on her in the first week that she asked for a divorce? and why are you not honoring this 3 month seperation still to this day? by Tracking her down at parties, texting her, disrespecting her request for no-contact...
No pressure prior to D talk. Lots the 3 days after. There seems to be a little too much glee that goes into tooling me for my apparent mistakes. Things change, often day to day and the history can be confusing. The 3 mo separation is moot. After "I want a D" it ceased to be a concern and it's one of the things I'm most angry about.
The majority of the individual times of requested NC were my idea. She breached those as often as I have and I was all too eager to read into that and keep the contact up. I don't do a lot of texting. Though I know she thinks I do, so point taken.
Spending time w/ W last sunday really made it clear to me how she's changed. I didn't like being around her. The vibe I got from her was bad and if I'd met her for the first time I would have avoided her like the plague. Which is what I'm doing.
It's funny, but I don't think she's dating. Yet. I think she's a little afraid to totally ruin everything. Even though I don't think I have much fight left in me.
Last edited by M A Holm; 10/15/0904:06 PM.
~Mark
Me: 38 W: 34 Together: 9yrs 1st M: may '03 1st D: april '08 1st bomb: june '08 remarried: oct '08 2nd bomb: aug '09 --(W asked for D one week into 3 mo. trial separation which was meant to save our M)
