She Lost Her Love For Me - Now What?

[ClingingToHope]

The email was good. The card was not. The grand gesture will not work, in fact it works in reverse.

My W decided in February to split up at the end of the school year. In March, we had a great talk and for a couple of weeks things looked like they were going to be OK.

A couple of small things happened and W started to shut me out again. For our anniversary, she said she didn't want gifts and would go out to eat as a family.

I'm a romantic though and I scanned in a bunch of photos from our lives together. I then sat our daughters down and made a digital recording of their reactions to the pictures. A friend at work then dubbed the girls and I talking over the photos on a CD.

It cost me nothing. Girls kept telling W how much she was going to love the gift. They made her watch it again and again until she threw it out.

When we split in May -- couldn't even make it to end of school year -- she said that CD was the last straw. It was my attempt to convince her what a great we had and that she was throwing it away.

Her response is all you need to know. You have to give her time and space. No pursuing. No I Love You's. No big trips or surprise gifts.