I posted in the newcomers but needed advice

[Arwen_in_NJ]

Swimming-
Have you read the DB\DR books? Pushing him into therapy if he is not interested in making an effort is not the way to go.

Seriously, you need to stop spinning yourself around in circles. Take a deep breath, and take a step back.

Perhaps you need to focus more on yourself, and less on what hubby is saying and doing. It seems to me that the color of your world at any particular second is totally dependant on his mood at the moment. That is way too much control and responsibility to give to another person. Would you find that an attractive trait in someone?