W wants to separate

[LTD]

Crying isn't pathetic...especially in the situation you're in. It is a natural expression of sadness. I would be more concerned with someone who didn't show any emotion in a situation like this.

I know about the no gifts thing, but I tend to feel for major events (i.e. 5th anniversary) something simple is probably appropriate. Anything you do should be kept light and simple, though (i.e. a humorous card instead of something mushy). I could be wrong, but I would let her cut your hair tonight, too. It is a chance to spend some somewhat intimate time together. The fact that she's even offering really seems like a good sign to me.

Stop talking about your relationship at every opportunity. It will just push her further away. If she is willing to go to counseling, why question it? Do you want to make this worse?

Keep an eye open about the other guy, but remember that in DR they talk about staying upbeat and being the best version of yourself you can be. If there is a potential EA out there, you need to make yourself more appealing than that guy, not a pouting version of yourself. It's OK to cry, as I mentioned above. Do it when you're by yourself, allow yourself to express sadness, then get over it and project confidence around your wife. I know it's hard, but you can do it.