Hope and heartache

[mishka422]

Doesn't really matter why she paid it off. She did it, that's all that matters. The only question is the $27.50 amount. Don't send it to her. She paid off the loan knowing you have access to it so it shouldn't come as a surprise to her that you aren't willing to pay on a loan that no longer exists.

Do you write a check each week? If so, just attach a note to it saying you were going over financials while reorganizing your budget (then it won't look like you were checking up on it) and saw that the loan you had both taken out was paid off. Congratulate her on it and leave it at that.

I understand not liking to talk money with her. Money is a major issue with most couples, but when separated it's MUCH worse.

How are you feeling today?