Is this the end of my marriage?

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This is VERY typical, especially for women. The metaphor that I use is that it's like two plates spinning on sticks; she will occasionally come back to your plate and give it a few spins (be nice to you, try to ML, throw you a bone, etc.), to make sure it's spinning while she goes back to the OM stick/plate.

What do I do about it to keep things on my terms (if you see what I mean) and stop her sabotaging my DBing?

Do I make sure when she comes back to my stick that the plate is gone (ie. I keep doing the 180, GALing and drop the rope) so there is nothing there to spin? The only thing that is left for her is the OM plate?