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[mishka422]

Anyway, here's the question. I saw tonight W paid off a short-term loan we took out when we were still living together. She probably got it from her 401(k) thanks to help from her mom.

First, I find it interesting because she said last week she didn't have $1,200 for a retainer to get divorced and the loan's balance was $1,224.

Second, and here, finally, is the question. In our unofficial child support agreement, I was paying her an additional $27.50 a paycheck for that loan. That equaled $55 a month for a $106 payment.

That is a tough one.

You say she is aware that you have access to both accounts. I presume you have full access to the loan since you took it out in both of your names? My suggestion....send a note or email letting her know that you were reorganizing your budget (or something similar) and pulled all of your financial records including the loan and saw that it had been paid off so the $27.50 won't be included with the CS any longer. Then make sure that you make a complimentary comment about paying off the loan. Not really sure how to word that, but I think you get the drift of what I mean.

CTH, on another note, if it comes to D then please demand 50/50 custody. I presume you live near each other so it won't be a major inconvenience. Like you said, your schedule is flexible so you will be able to adjust easily. One note of warning though.......don't be TOO flexible! It will only enable your W to walk over you. Trust me on this!

I do hope that Marc will learn from my examples. I'll admit that I'm not always the best example since I have a lot of issues to work through, but I do try.

Dylan, what can I say? Some people just aren't really cut out to be parents but procreation really takes no skills.