No overnight guests of the opposite sex when the kids are present (unless married).
No alcoholic beverages to be consumed by the parent when he/she has the kids. (Unfortunately my ex is constantly breaking this one...may be back in court soon.)
I agree with all of what Deb mentioned with the exception of the two above...
The overnight guest thing only works until the divorce is finalized. I don't see how you can enforce it after that. The no alcohol is also difficult at best to enforce. People need to get on with their lives, bad decisions and all. I had verbiage in the parenting plan that there would be no overnigt guests until the divorce was finalized, but she conveniently ignored it. The issue with these requirements is that there is little you can do about it if they are not followed. File a motion with the court ($$$) and maybe the judge will say she shouldn't do that. No repercussions. Unless there is something really destructive going on that may harm the kids, it probably just isn't worth the time, money and hassle to fight it and also just creates ill feelings between the parties involved because there is sense of one person trying to control the other's life even though they are now divorced.
Be specific about holidays and birthdays. Be specific about college $. I'm looking back at my PSA and am thinking this may be an issue to deal with when we get there.
