In the early part of the S, I would have liked to have had much more reassurance, but he kept saying that going to a C to fix himself was his way of fighting for our R. What I saw at first was that he became even MORE self-centered, I've seen a lot of growth and change since then.
Mostly, I don't feel that I've done a great deal other than try to be patient and loving and consistant. The rest has been responding to the positive changes he has been making.
Just checking in to Idiots Anon here for a minute before heading off to work.
H moves back in tomorrow, and ironically, I just got sent on a business trip for the whole following week. He'll get to be here on his own with the kids for awhile.
He's been a bit short with me a few times recently--don't know what that's about, but the full moon this week has been making the craziness extra crazy at both of our workplaces.
I was getting a little resentful about how he would talk a bit forlornly everytime he talked about packing or cleaning. Said he was enjoying his last few days of "solitude" and that he would miss that.
I let myself get a little & said, "well, maybe you could think about how LUCKY you are to have a family to come home to and that we want you to. It could have been very different, you know."
That kind of blew him off the pity pot having to be reminded that we could have shut the door in his face and didn't.
Quote: I was getting a little resentful about how he would talk a bit forlornly everytime he talked about packing or cleaning. Said he was enjoying his last few days of "solitude" and that he would miss that.
Maybe your being out of town next week will help how H is feeling. What will you do to help H with this? Come up with ways for him to have some alone time? Don't get frustrated that he is feeling that way. seems like it would be understandable.
I know if my H was moving back in I would feel that way.
jmo
Enjoy the weekend and good wishes for the move this weekend!
Well it's official. He's all moved in & I actually started worrying he might have a heart attack hauling boxes & stereo equiptment. Seriously--he need to loose some weight & get in shape! I worry
Anyway, it must be Dress up the Naked Hand Week because LL has her wedding ring back on and my finger got a present. It's called a past, present, future setting and about 1 3/4 caret & really beautiful!
I wonder if the guy had to sell a kidney for it? Maybe that's why he's passed out & snoring really loud on the couch (LOLOL). Naw, I think he's just exhausted from the move.
And so it begins.... I'm sure it won't be easier, but it will be different than Limboland. Never want to visit Limboland again now that we found our way out.
Tal, I am dancing in my chair with excitement for you. What a beautiful, "thanks for welcoming me home" gift your H gave you...WOW....my H moved in like a thief in the night, no fanfare, nothing...oh well.
I'm thrilled for you and wish you all the love and patience in the world as you and your H walk down the new road you're now on. T2
