Hi P17, puppy is right, the more that you get into this, the more you will see that DBing and its principles can be used in almost any type of relationship you enter into. Shes doing it to you, and its going to sabotage your efforts if you let it!
My actions at the moments, other than contact with my daughter is NC and to drop the rope. It's not easy but I am, at least today, in the right frame of mind to do this. My first victory was on Monday when she wanted to come over to talk and I was busy. She wanted to tell me about OM moving up here. I *think* she has went into a mood about that because she has still not told me about the OM even by text, letter or phone call. She expected me to be there and when I wasn't she wasn't pleased. At least that's why *I* think.
The more she tugs on the rope, the more she is keeping me dangling. Friends feel that this is to keep me as Plan B until she is confident the OM is what she wants. I don't know if that's true but it makes sense at least. I want to drop that rope and make sure when she next tugs that all she gets back is an empty end of rope.
So what do I do? How do I not let it affect my efforts? Why is she doing this - is it to keep me as Plan B and dangling?
Last edited by P17; 10/15/0909:20 AM.
Me 36, W 34 | D 8 | M 3.5y Sep 2Aug09 | Left 6Sep09 | OM in 10Oct09 | NC 17Nov09 | Gave up caring - Jan 2010
"Have integrity. Do what is right, not what is expedient." "Delay is the antidote for anger"
