A Little Epiphany - (and a newbie delurking)

[girlfromoz]

No problems O'Dog. Bundaberg and Four-X I know.

[Dia]

Popped an email to H letting him know that I had some pre-paid counseling sessions he could use, either by himself or together. We'll see what he says.

[Dia]

Work vent -

I was reviewing some marketing materials for a training my company is doing a week from next Monday. The marketing materials say that breakfast and lunch are included. Hmmm. *I'm* the one who makes those kind of arrangements and this is the first I've heard!!

*grumble*

[Energizer Bunny]

Future conversation.

Boss: Oh yeah, Dia. That training we have coming up...why don't you go ahead and set up breakfast and lunch for everyone?

Dia: No problem. Cereal and fast food work for you?

[Dia]

ROFL!!!

Breakfast Menu: Froot Loops, Sunny D, Instant coffee, Powdered milk (works for the cereal AND the coffee!).

Lunch: Mickey D's or Taco Bell - hey, you get to pick!!

I don't mind doing catering. It's the "what if I hadn't looked at the materials before I sent them?" that gets me. Oh, yeah - mind reading is part of my job description.

And I'm waiting for a confirmation from the boss on this one. We only have 6 bodies registered for that training. I ain't bookin' no airfare or hiring a caterer until I know if we're going forward with only 6 people.

[Dia]

A gratitude post...

* I can buy groceries without fear. I am still frugal, but I can shop based on health, taste and nutrition, not just by cost.

* I can buy clothing for the kidlet to keep him warm, dry and looking well cared for.

* I can splurge on a latte or lunch out every now and then.

* I can afford haircuts and makeup.

* I don't have to choose between groceries or medications, or agonize over a doctor visit.

* I don't worry about running out of gas before the next child support payment arrives.

* With a little saving, I can think about things like a vacation or maybe buying a used tent trailer for camping.

* Together, H and I can afford to replace his 98 Ford, or to have it fixed.

* I have a roof over my head, a warm bed for myself and my child, and a husband who works hard to make it so.

Mark it on the calendar, boys - gratitude from a former almost WAW.

[orangedog]

Yes be thankful.

O'dog is just learning the reality of your statements as he ponders giving up his cute house downtown for something cheaper. (just a few more hours till payday...please..)

[Dia]

Hi, O'dog,

It really ground me gears that your X was griping about her pittance of child support.

One of the things that won my respect back for H was that he was never a day late or a dollar short with the support money. We still have separate finances. I pitch in $200/month toward insurance and I buy the majority of the groceries. All in all, I'd say his monthly expenses have dropped by at least a grand a month since I came back. We cost him a bit more in utilities, but not a huge amount. I hope he does something fun with the extra money - really enjoys it. He deserves it.

[Energizer Bunny]

A gratitude post...


Mark it on the calendar, boys - gratitude from a former almost WAW.

Thanks for sharing. I don't think that my W has thought about this stuff at all. It gives me hope that she may one day.

EB's W: What? No more $180 haircuts and I can't drop $300 at Target on a whim? $15 lunches, no problem...oh wait...

Mind you I don't want her to stay for financial reasons, but it would be nice to feel appreciated for providing. It's nice that some people get it.

[ClingingToHope]

Hope for us all. I second the thing on the money part. I make sure it gets to her as soon as possible so the kids don't suffer and I work a second job for myself and them as well.