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No, he doesn't spend much time with his dad even though he lives less than 8 miles from here. I asked for sole custody giving him visitation every other weekend and one evening per week. He is such a selfish prick that he didn't ever even mention the possibility of 50/50 custody.

That raises an interesting question. I've never brought 50/50 custody although I would love to have it. Five years ago, when my W first brought up D -- hello, why didn't I take the hint and make changes then -- the first thing she said was she was taking the kids.

Schedule wise, it's better if I have them. I have the flexible schedule. But they are girls and need their mom -- and her self esteem is really tied up into them. If she didn't have the kids, she'd just crash.

I do plan on asking for another night during weeks where I won't have them on the weekends. I don't think she'll balk since she's already asked me to take them additional nights twice in my 10 weeks in the apartment because she's so far behind at work.

Here's a question for you. W and I still have joint accounts so I can go online and see where we both are financially. W was pushing to close accounts, but I pointed out to her that she'd have to make trips to credit union to deposit checks. Keeping the joint accounts, I can just transfer the money.

Anyway, here's the question. I saw tonight W paid off a short-term loan we took out when we were still living together. She probably got it from her 401(k) thanks to help from her mom.

First, I find it interesting because she said last week she didn't have $1,200 for a retainer to get divorced and the loan's balance was $1,224.

Second, and here, finally, is the question. In our unofficial child support agreement, I was paying her an additional $27.50 a paycheck for that loan. That equaled $55 a month for a $106 payment.

Do I just put $25 less in next week's transfer, write her a note -- she hasn't given me her new email address -- saying I'm going to put $25 less a check in the transfer or send her a text?

I do not like talking money with W.