Thanks for the advice, that was one dark house she come home to the other night! Did not ask about what she did either. I am definitely in need of advice with how to proceed. I feel that I have come to a point of needing to do, as you mentioned, a 180 on the separation thing. I think I am going to wait and see if she makes any concrete progress on moving forward with an apartment and play that card at that point (she has brought apartment up many times with no real action so far except reading apartment finders guides).
I just need to know how best to play this. I want to let her know the following but in a way that is non-punitive and loving:
1) While I am being friendly with her and have previously let her know how much I want her back, I want her to know that she has really crossed over some serious boundaries with me w/ the infidelity and that I do not at all condone this. I don't want to upset her but I also want to show some strength with this and let her know without a doubt that what she is doing has very real consequences (my patience will only last so long). What is the best way to get this point across to a WAW without pursuing? I know that I can deliver this w/o emotion at this point in the sitch.
2) I think your idea of creating the mystery of dating is good and I 100% want to follow this up. You said to play it cool and I do agree that something like this has to be played cool or it will come across as retaliatory or as an empty threat. How is the best way to broach the dating thing in a way that makes her think about what she is throwing away while not seeming like it is an empty threat?
I am envisioning a conversation that covers both of these points once she comes to me with apartment news but I just want to make darn sure I play this card right.
Gucci, Puppy, RobX, others, please chime in on this as well if you happen across this (I know you have experience in busting affairs up). I feel like I need to start getting tougher but not sure about the best approach.
Really struggling with how to proceed with this but resolved that I am not going to become a doormat either.
