Mind over matter; I don't mind, because it doesn't matter.
That's good SP! You deal with a lot, and you handle it like a pro! I really hope you'll be happy someday. You will, it just might take some more time. You've detatched like a champ.
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
After a few of those I'm surprised you even open them up anymore.
"My actions are my only true belongings. I cannot escape the consequences of my actions. My actions are the ground upon which I stand." Thich Nhat Hanh
This whole thing about whether div is harder on men or women will get us nowhere. Every sitch is different but nobody gets out without a few scars.
Odog is getting by but might have to move to a smaller rental place. Didn't get rich from this by any means or measure.
Odog is angry right now about how the she thinks about his income. The She is a L and the dog is a webbie. Its been planned this way since the early days of skool but now the looks her nose at the dog.
The She is angry because she has to pay a small amount of child support each month (let's say the amount is equal to a typical family cable/internet package which by the way the dog doesn't have) and thinks that "a real man" would refuse to take it. Eff-Eeuuww!
"My actions are my only true belongings. I cannot escape the consequences of my actions. My actions are the ground upon which I stand." Thich Nhat Hanh
@alive: Maybe, but then The Boy was complaining this morning that while he was trying to watch the teevee @ Mom's house Mom kept jabbering on the phone with her "friend" from European City "who's a boy." ("But not a boyfriend," he assured himself me.)
And on this subject -- well, vaguely on this subject -- this is the kind of thing that sets @Gypsy and me to loggerheads. I know -- it's none of my business. But... You be the judges.
WAW took the kids tonite -- wanted some extra time before the weekend when she goes to Upstate City. Okay, fine. Then this exchange that follows. Now I know @Gypsy is correct in the macro sense that I just have let her figure it out, like with the empty fridge, but these things impact Themselves directly!
WAW text: I need Girl Child's homework book.
[SP's thought balloon: You've had them 3 hours. This didn't occur to you until 30 minutes before bedtime?]
SP text: What page?
WAW: 29
SP: Will scan & email it.
WAW: I dont have a printer.
[SP's thought balloon: *Sigh* Are you effin' kidding me? You've lived in that house 4 months, you work from home, and you don't have an effin' printer? "Worst Buy," "Big Box Retailer," helloooooo -- any of those ring a bell?]
SP: Just open the file & have her do it on looseleaf.
WAW: O!! Good idea!
5 minutes later:
WAW: Boy Child wants 2 watch episode of Fav Cartoon DVD.
[N.B.: We generally don't allow video activities on school nights but make the occasional exception for reward purposes.]
SP: Homework done?
WAW: Y
SP: Your decision. Will back u.
WAW: DVD player doesnt work.
[SP's thought balloon: Then why the @(*$^&)(#$#$!__0&#%$*! did you bring it up in the first place?!?!?]
SP: Since when?
WAW: Since moving in.
SP: Any idea why?
WAW: Its not connected.
SP: [:sound of head repeatedly striking wall:] Why?
WAW: Dont know how.
SP: Then Boy Child has his answer doesnt he?
Really. Really? This is what I have to contend with? Really? Gawwwl Dayum -- it's going to be a loooooooonnnng 13 years.....
Been there. Done that. Got the t-shirt. In fact, got dozens of t-shirts because, as I said gleefully, looking Mrs. SP Herself dead in the eye -- "Oh well -- guess I'm not a real man. Count your lucky stars you found that out in time to escape. Ka-Ching!"
Mrs. SP: Fine! And it doesn't make any difference to ME, anyway! Signore il Secondo and I didn't sleep 10 minutes the whole time I was in European City! And skills? You WISH you had those skills!
SP: That's great! I'm happy for you. You needed it.
I gotta ask this, because it *really* makes my bs-o-meter spike .... do you actually MEAN that???
"Show me a completely smooth operation and I'll show you someone who's covering mistakes. Real boats rock." -- Frank Herbert
Mrs. SP: Fine! And it doesn't make any difference to ME, anyway! Signore il Secondo and I didn't sleep 10 minutes the whole time I was in European City! And skills? You WISH you had those skills!
SP: That's great! I'm happy for you. You needed it.
I gotta ask this, because it *really* makes my bs-o-meter spike .... do you actually MEAN that???
You beat me to this, Kett. Methinks you doth protest too much, SP, and your devil-may-care attitude doesn't feel authentic to me.
I disagree guys, at one point you detach so much when your WAS is so disrespectful that you really don't care anymore, that's the problem I'm dealing with now, after so much disrespect, now that she is trying to be nice, it's like whatever, I spent too much time & energy into this and my body didn't like the stress it was under during the process, I would rather just disconnect and not be affected anymore. Not as much anger but it's more apathy now, more like, do whatever you want, it just helps me disconnect even more.
