Ok. No one's perfect. Just try to learn here and not repeat the same mistake.
I know if it were me, I would have a very difficult time keeping my sanity if my W was both committed to leave and, at the same time, was acting like were were still going to be M'd. If you can handle it, ok. I just don't know how anyone could.
Pulling back in the form of lovingly detaching and GAL'ing would likely help the situation. It might pull her to you and will definitely allow you to build back your self confidence, which I think is a major part of healing.
