Yeah, the 'bunny boiler' comment had me spraying coffe all over my desk and my coworker next to me dying to know what the heck was soooooo danged funny and why wasn't I sharing it with her.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Mishka you have a great sense of humor. GIMA, thanks for checking in.
Big news today in my sitch! I spoke today with a reliable source who told me that my H has just been dumped by a 2nd woman he was dating!!!! Apparently they had been dating for about 2 weeks or so. My source said that H was interested and happy with this woman. They had plans to do something last saturday but on friday evening she phoned him, canceled the plans, and told him that she didn't want to see him again. It now makes sense why H had become more distant the past few weeks.
This would be the 2nd time he has been "dumped" by a woman in the last 6 weeks. H had been irritable and stressed around me (manifestation of his depression) but I never knew whether he acted this way around others. It seems that he is having trouble relating to new women which makes me think he may be irritable and depressed around/with them as well????? The first woman "dumped" him in a 3-4 page e-mail (kinda harsh, isn't that????? like Carrie Bradshaw being dumped in a post-it note??????) and the 2nd woman did it in a phone conversation. I don't know what reasons either woman gave, but I would think H would be smarting from this. My source said "Your H needs a friend right now. You can be his friend." I agree that this is the DB-way and an opening for me. I just have to vent here and say what the %&*#$ is wrong with H that he seems SOOOOOO anxious to BE in a relationship but hasn't figured out that ALLLLLLLL relationships require work at times. Does he plan to just go from one relationship to the next for the next 40 years like a bumblebee going from flower to flower?????????
My source said their instincts tell them that H is probably beginning to have 2nd thoughts. H's sister just arrived in town for a 4 day visit. She is staying with H in his new house I think. I respond to the e-mail H sent me today and send him photos I took of his mother and "our" little girl (my cat) last night. H's sister invited me to lunch on saturday so I will be re-reading Ali's suggestions before then. I have a DB coaching session just before saturday lunch.
H and SIL will likely be driving by my (our previous) house since it is not too far from H's house. I have decorated the front of the house and am carving pumpkins to put out too. Wanna make the house look warm and inviting!
Thanks for stopping by! I'm REALLY impressed at what great advice folks here give so please feel free to offer some. I'm open to suggestions. I'm losing my patience with H (not sure if this is just me protecting myself because of Dday coming up or frustration pure and simple). This may be just a phase for me. I don't know.
Based on the timing of this it would appear that my birthday "date" with H was right around the time he started dating OW #2. It almost feels as though there are forces in the universe at work in this situation, but H just doesn't want to take the hint (kinda like a WAHinator) so the universe just keeps beating him down????? I pray for him every day.
I'm no prophet, but there's a decent chance he may come sniffing around if he thinks the odds are better with you than he's had out in the field. So remember the DB mantra - be fabulous, but mysterious. You know - sorta mostly unavailable. Make him chase, make him pursue.
The trouble with having an open mind is that people put things in it.
My sitch - Divorce Busted! http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1804137#Post1804137
I'm not certain about the e-mail after this new development. I DO know that if the D becomes final I feel like walking away and closing that part of my heart to H, so if I don't communicate this to him am I any better than a WAH who didn't tell ME he was unhappy before he left?
I had previous plans to socialize this saturday evening with the source who gave me this info. I may get more info then. I also need to REALLY think about LISTENING when I have lunch with H's sister, to see what info she might give me (if I don't talk too much).
