That is good to know. I was wondering if there were any happy endings on this board.
I will do anything to get her back. That is why I am here. I need strength and patience. She keeps telling me the more I bother her the more I am pushing her away. I just haven't understood the "space and time" thing yet. I guess I am worried she is going to spend time thinking about how to leave me rather than thinking about how to come back to me.
That very urgency and clawing need to get her back is very understandable, and I think something a lot of us here have gone through. Hey. we're all human eh.
My sitch has been called somewhat of a rarity too. W has completely woken up. Not that we have a fantasy marriage, no, we have issues and problems and scars from the A, but we're working them through. With the baby due soon, it adds some stress.
Sorry if you felt folks kept harping on the OM thing. It's just a lot more common than you might assume and being blindsided by it can be devastating. I was in much a position like yours for a few months leading up to discovery, and for the life of me I could not figure out why she needed that space, and behaving like an alien. Knowing OM existed and what I was up against helped me deal with things better.
As Coach has posted, your W is clear on what she wants / needs right now. One of the big mistakes I made was in not giving my W that very thing. It WILL push her away. GAL and leave it in the hands of God.
Good luck!
Me 42 W 39 Married: 11 Jan 1998, T: Since 1992 First Bomb: Sep 2007 Confirmed A/OM: 4 Nov 2007 Kids: D10, S5 Reconciled and together again after (alot of) time and heartbreak. 3rd kid, S, born 2 Jan 2010.
