I think that I would do both things and mean it. I confronted my H on his internet porn and his sex texting and then the stuff that he texted to my own sister. He denied it all until I showed the proof of what I had found. He could not deny it any longer.
What proof do you have or have seen that there is an OW? Do you want to save your M? Or are you looking for advice on what to do after things are pretty much over in the M?
Me-31 Him-28 D1-9 D2-6 Married 5-06 Seperated 12-07 He filed 1-08 Reconciled 4-08 D dropped 7-08 Bomb dropped about H's activities outside the marriage 4-21-09 Filed for D 4-28-09 Trying to make a go of it 6-09
