I just read your last post and all I am hearing is you beating yourself up over your M. You keep saying that you are afraid to hear about what else you have done to make this M fail. What about all that he has done? If you helped in making your M fail then you would already know these things in your heart. Just like you H knows them in his heart, however cold his may be. He just can't accept the blame for what he has done to make the M fail and that is why he keeps blaming you for everything.
Stop blaming yourself. Yes, people say that it takes two to make a M survive and it takes two to make a M fail. I believe that in most cases but there are going to be soem cases that are the exception to the rule. Yours may be one of them. I can say the things that I failed at. I can admit what I did do, what I did not do, and what I should have done or should be doing now. Your H will probably never admit to any of those things.
If you only have a 1% hope of chance in making the M survive, then you have a 99% chance of making bunny survive on her own in her own place. Think about that. You know what you want to do. You are just afraid to make that leap. Take your time if you need, keep trying if you want, but please stop beating yourself up for your M. You are not the only one that has made this M fail. I place 99% of the failure on him for what he has made you do, what he has made you feel, and where your M is now.
Just my two cents on the sitch.
Me-31 Him-28 D1-9 D2-6 Married 5-06 Seperated 12-07 He filed 1-08 Reconciled 4-08 D dropped 7-08 Bomb dropped about H's activities outside the marriage 4-21-09 Filed for D 4-28-09 Trying to make a go of it 6-09
