Well, I am just here to give a little update! H finally moved out! woo hoo. Told the kids, we are all dealing. I met someone else 4 days after he told me he wanted to be separated at the end of July. Everyone will think I'm crazy, but I'm really happy. New guy is 24 - yep I'm officially a cougar! We are still seeing each other & have a great time together. He made me remember what I felt like before I got married. When I was a free spirit & took risks & chances. Love it. Nothing too serious just having fun. I am actually enjoying the single life. It's fun to be single at this age when I actually have confidence! It's nice to get attention from men wherever I go smile I just look at it as H's loss! I have lots of new friends & an active social life while still enjoying my kids. Financially things aren't great, but working themselves out. Sep agreement has been signed & house will be refinanced into my name only soon. There is life after a blow like this. Once the switch flipped in me to not care about my husband anymore...I remembered how to truly be happy again.

The funny thing is, once I stopped caring H started up on my butt. He never cared what I did before while I was working on the marriage, but suddenly he would see me laughing while on the phone or texting & ask what was so funny. He would try to tease me about other men. I think he is jealous bc my life goes on...I'm a happy person & although he is getting rid of me, he is still miserable! I have found rogaine & hair thinning shampoo in his room. He is really losing his hair now I noticed! He had to move in with his mom. He doesn't have much to look forward to in his life. I even hired a PI & he never was cheating. I'll never know what his problem was...I kept beating myself up saying what did I do wrong in this marriage?! I have finally made peace with knowing that I will never know what happened...sometimes the answer in life is "just because".

Me 36, Him 33
M 11yrs, T 15yrs
S 8, D 7
ILYBINILWY - 1/09
H moves out 10/09
D to be final SOON I HOPE!