my W doesn't regret her affair

[GH31]

Good morning Future,

She needs to make the break from OM. She knows it, I know it.

And she most probably will under the right conditions. She may not be as "drugged out" anymore but the affair is still in progress, and, as Puppy and the good Phoenixdeux point out your marriage is worthless while that's the case.

I know you were bad in your M. I was in mine too. I was abusive, thoughtless, selfish and an all round jerk. You're responsible for that and I can tell you own it. You're not responsible for your wife's decision to lie and cheat.

If OM is thousands of miles away (as he was in my sitch) that will naturally limit the extent to which he can meet your wife's emotional needs. After the infatuation chemicals started to subside a little in your wife's brain and reality intruded on her fantasy, she looked to you ... but not completely as you've discovered.

Phoenixdeux and Puppy are right, now is not the first 6 months of your W's affair. You would be better off going completely dark until/unless you are 100% that your W's affair is history. I did this with my own W and she came back albeit grudgingly. Her actions tell you that she's far from done with you.

Translation: "I don't know what I want" means "I'm not ready to give up my affair yet" similar to "I'll quit smoking next year".

Please keep us posted.