My wife goes out a lot. Her famous line is I'm not doing anything when I confront her. She controls much of what goes on in our R. She makes plans and I'm left with D11. Last week I told her she wasn't a good mother - pissed her off so much she started pushing me. For her to have dinner with our friend and not invite me was her way of getting back at me. It's not uncommon if her friend eats over our house of we eat over hers.
My answer is I'll take care of my own dinner prevented her from controlling the situation. If I let her get me something then she could feel good about not inviting me.
May sound selfish, but I think it worked. When she came home she was quiet as usual. I spoke first and we had a nice conversation.
Jack - I'll keep things nice. Depending what happens in the next few months I may decide to pursue a divorce. I know she won't unless her councelor helps figure out what she wants.
