I meant does it work in getting H's attention. I've never had a problem living life for me - that's what got me into this mess - among other things, H resented that I devoted most of my energy to our S, and then at night, out doing theatre and having a social life when he is a shy computer nerd. H and I lived separate lives for years and didn't know how to connect. Now that I'm trying to connect, he's p***ed off and not willing. Round and round.
