Hey, everyone. Thanks for continuing to check in on me.
The meeting with the PC went fine. I'm still reflecting on what we covered. It took a little longer than I had expected because relating to someone the whole background is just simply going to take a while. Even then I didn't cover but a fraction, but I am hoping it was enough.
The biggest question he had concerned why it came about that the court asked for a PC to be assigned to our case -- as in our type of circumstances the parents don't typically have one assigned. I told him it was because we had volunteered to such in our parenting agreement, at the suggestion of our atty.s.
He said he hopes to save both xW and I a lot of money by helping keep our disputes out of the courts. And in talking with us, he feels that, so far as he's seen, he doesn't expect us to contact him very often, as we appear to be settling down and working on some level of cooperation. He strongly suggested we continue to keep as much of our communication and correspondence in writing as possible, just to avoid the he-said, she-said nonsense that tends to happen.
I prepared him for some possible points of contention that are likely to come up in the not too distant future; these being based on those issues in our Parenting Agreement that xW had wanted changed or removed before she would sign -- specifically, move-aways and cohabitation. He agreed that based on where her focus seemed to be in the agreement those might very well be something she might pursue, thus leading to a dispute.
I also told him that the last remaining area in which I might can trust xW is that she does love our S's and that she does want to have their best interests at heart. However, I also know that xW has shown to be like too many parents who have this bad habit of confusing and replacing their children's best interests with their own self-interests. The doctor agreed wholeheartedly and said that my observation on that was very "astute. He said that his role was to stay focused on what is best for S8 and S4 and for the court. I replied that where my S's are concerned I was counting on him (the PC) to keep us both, xW and I, honest on that score.
I'm not entirely sure how all this is going to pan out, but I am somewhat hopeful that the PC will indeed help us to keep a lid on our disagreements and, more importantly, deter xW from taking any more unilateral actions regarding our S's.
