Ahhh, but Grasshopper, that is the Chicken and the Egg.
You see, it is my GALing to the point where you BEGIN to stop being so co-dependent on her, that she will MAKE THE CHOICE to break away from OM altogether!!
Understand???
Funny stuff Puppy. The young kids here at work totally don't get it when I call them Grasshopper!
Boy, I sure feel like I'm not co-dependent any more. I definitely was, and it was hard breaking away, but we've been separated for 10 months now. I'm living in my house, got my kids half the time, doing great with them, and I'm busy almost every night I don't have them. I'll be running a marathon next month. I think I'm doing okay.
She needs to make the break from OM. She knows it, I know it. Remember, OM is thousands of miles away, so that muddies things up a little bit. He's never even been here.
Today in mediation the subject of tax returns way in the future came up, and I was forced to say "I can't be required to submit my future tax returns to adjust child support. I will almost certainly be married again, probably with other kids involved, and I can't have my wife's income being included in the child support adjustment." My W seemed very surprised when I said that. I think she gets it.
