I love the crown image - H really does walk around with this sense of entitlement. I am not supposed to ask, propose, suggest anything.
So be it.
I am getting it about grabbing my power back. Like I said, I'm struggling with the fact that he left BECAUSE I was going out, getting dressed up, doing my own thing, etc. I don't want to do my old behaviors.
But there is still a way to just keep busy with my own plans and not ask anything of him. If he invtes me, that is a different story. Otherwise, he needs to see I"m ok with the separation.
I forgot the thing about the 2 weeks. I felt so proud of myself that I did my own thing this weekend - and that is obviously not enough time.
Has anyone else had success with the GAL for two+ weeks?
Hope,
You are getting some good advice from some very knowledgeable people.
GAL'ing is critical and it works. Now what does it work for (i.e., accomplish)? A couple of things. First, it shows your WAS you aren't sitting around pining for them to grace you with their presence. It shows the WAS that you will be just fine on your own. And, YOU WILL.
Second, it gets you busy and interested in hte positive things in life. Do something you have always wanted to do but haven't. New experiences, knowledge and fun. This will boost your self confidence and, most importantly, it puts the right person in charge of your happiness...YOU. When you accept that only YOU are responsible for YOUR happiness, your H's moods/actions/words might have some affect upon you, but they do not dictate what your mood is.
