Yes, letting him be his own out of control a$$ is a good idea. So, I'm laying low until we get into MC as he has promised within the next month. H is coming over tonight with FIL to be with S, I'm going out until bedtime. We'll take it one day at a time, but I guess I need to act as if we aren't in a R at all, because when I tried to show my availability (per his previous complaints that I was gone all the time), he has used this against me.
I don't know if not being around is giving me or him power. If it's really what he wants - for me to be out of his face - then it actually gives him power. But it gives me power over my own life. It may not give me power in his eyes, but it does give me my own life back.
