I did lead for too long. I did all the lifting and I am now exhausted. I don't mind the 2x4s, so bring them on. What am I doing to break the cycle? I tried taking Friday off for 18 months and we had date night that night, but never sex after the date. I did the flowers, new house, new car, clothes, cleaning, laundry, cleaning lady, watched the kids for her to go out on her own or friends. This was in the past because she said those things would do it for her, but never did. I now do not even want to ask her on a date because I get the yuckies sort of like when I hear women say they get the yuckies thinking of their husbands.
When I would say (after 2 weeks of no sex), can we make love to night ( because we ran out of ideas I just started asking). She would say we did it last week. I would say,no, that was 2 weeks ago, then the arguement would start. If I initiate in bed, she is non responsive. ie., back rub etc.
She is allowing more sex because she knows how important. She is getting into it more as well. I just don't want to find out in 3 years that she is now resentful of me because she "sacrificed" and did it.
If I didn't say anything, I'm betting we could go months or years without it, but I get frustrated after about 5 days and get annoyed then start to withdraw. She recognizes the withdraw, but does nothing to remedy it.
